5 posts categorized "Conflict"

March 28, 2017

Conflict is therefore simply the sound made by the cracks in a system . . .

"Conflict is therefore simply the sound made by the cracks in a system, whether the system is personal, familial, relational, organizational, social, economic, or political. It is a warning light pointing at something in our environment or character that is not working for ourselves or others. It is an opportunity for rethinking and innovation. It is the birth-pang of a new way of being that is waiting to be born. It is a reminder of our interdependence, of the skills we need to improve, of what is most important in life, of what we need to do or let go of in order to escape its’ orbit and evolve to higher levels of conflict."

Ken Cloke

Our ‘opponents’ are our co-creators. . .

“Our ‘opponents’ are our co-creators, for they have something to give which we have not. The basis of all cooperative activity is integrated diversity.... What people often mean by getting rid of conflict is getting rid of diversity, and it is of the utmost importance that these should not be considered the same. We may wish to abolish conflict, but we cannot get rid of diversity. We must face life as it is and understand that diversity is its most essential feature... Fear of difference is dread of life itself. It is possible to conceive conflict as not necessarily a wasteful outbreak of incompatibilities, but a normal process by which socially valuable differences register themselves for the enrichment of all concerned.”

Mary Parker Follett

February 09, 2017

If war is the violent resolution of conflict, then peace is . . .

If war is the violent resolution of conflict, then peace is not the absence of conflict, but rather, the ability to resolve conflict without violence.

C.T. Lawrence Butler

October 24, 2016

When you change the vibration of something, you change the result...

"When conflicts arise, step away and breathe. There's a natural universal law that when you change the vibration of something, you change the result. The natural response is to fight back, which only increases the 'vibration' of the conflict, but inner stillness in one person changes the result for both people. Just try it and see!"
Renee Miller

October 08, 2016

69% of relationship conflict is about perpetual problems...

"Our research has shown that 69% of relationship conflict is about perpetual problems. All couples have them – these problems are grounded in the fundamental differences that any two people face. They are either 1) fundamental differences in your personalities that repeatedly create conflict, or 2) fundamental differences in your lifestyle needs."

John Gottman